This blog is written by Lee Gale Gruen to help Baby Boomers, seniors, retirees, and those soon to retire find joy, excitement, and satisfaction in life after retirement. Her public lecture on this subject is titled: “Reinventing Yourself in Your Retirement.” Her memoir, Adventures with Dad: A Father and Daughter’s Journey Through a Senior Acting Class, is available by clicking here Amazon.com. Click here for her website: http://AdventuresWithDadTheBook.com
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Throughout my life, I’ve encountered people who are described as “fragile” both by themselves and by others. These people have been co-workers, family members, friends, acquaintances, and more. Fragile seems to mean that they can’t tolerate too much pressure, stress, responsibility, expectations, etc., or they “fall apart.”
I’m not the fragile type. I come across as responsible, capable, reliable, tough. Therefore, others have high expectations of me, and are upset if I fail to live up to them. I am expected to show up on time, not complain, do the job assigned to me, and produce results, not excuses. However, fragile people are not held to this standard. They are given a pass because, after all, they are fragile.
I’ve never been sure if fragility is actual or a successful protective shield which is carefully honed during a lifetime. Certainly, it yields high payoffs to some practitioners. A co-worker years ago earned the same salary as I and had the same job description, but expectations for her were far less than for me. When extra work needed to be done, it was usually me who was tapped. And my reward? More work, of course. When I was lamenting the situation to another co-worker, his response was, “Well, she’s fragile.” That was my introduction to that descriptor of ineptitude, a very manipulative behavior in this case.
I’ve pondered over the years how to jump on the fragile train. I’m not a natural at it, and it doesn’t fit my personality. However, I’ve tried to acquire the skill. Usually, however, my true nature shows through, and others don’t let me get away with it.
So, I’m putting it out to the world. I want to be fragile. If you encounter me or deal with me, take your expectations elsewhere and let me screw up over and over with minimal consequences, at the same salary, of course.
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