This blog is written by Lee Gale Gruen to help retirees, those soon to retire, baby boomers, and seniors reinvent themselves in this new stage of their lives called retirement. Her blog, public lecture, and new self-help book on senior reinvention are titled: Reinventing Yourself in Your Retirement Years: Find Joy Excitement, and Purpose After You Retire. Her memoir is: Adventures with Dad: A Father and Daughter’s Journey Through a Senior Acting Class. Books descriptions follow her blog below. Both books are available at Amazon.com by clicking here and here. Her website is: LeeGaleGruen.com
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Are you a standing out or a blending in kind of gal/guy? These two types of personalities are found near opposite ends of a continuum, and all people fit in somewhere along that line. The extremes are akin to extrovert versus introvert but not quite to the extent that those labels bring to mind.
A standing out person might be more chatty, exuberant, flashy, etc. A blending in person might be more introspective, subtle, reserved, and the like. One is not better than the other, necessarily. They both have their pros and cons.
Personality types are evident in very young children. It seems to be something that one is born with. Then, a little environmental influence along the maturation process is added to the basic recipe, and the whole mixture molds that human to establish his/her personality. That is what usually determines where you fall on the personality scale when you finally reach adulthood.
A standing out kind of person might attract more attention to themselves, but that attention could be either positive or negative. A blending in type of person might harbor envy of the standing-outers who usually get the lion’s share of attention. Of course, standing-outers might be jealous of the blending-iners who may not get the blame as often.
Standing out can be exhausting while blending in might seem to be less taxing and energy draining. However, blending-iners might suffer more internal turmoil from the lack of recognition they think they deserve.
You probably can’t change your innate personality, but you may be able to modify it if you’re willing to put in the effort required to do so. The trick to contentment, however, is to accept your own personality type and make peace with it.
Regardless, of which personality you tend to favor, there are careers, activities, companions, and rewards available to suit your type. Seek them out and take advantage of them at your own comfort level. Trial and error will help you find your particular niche.
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BOOKS BY: LEE GALE GRUEN
Reinventing Yourself in Your Retirement Years: Find Joy, Excitement, and Purpose After You Retire (self-help): Not a one-size-fits-all approach, this self-help book for retirees, those soon to retire, baby boomers, and seniors offers an individualized, detailed guide to assist readers in discovering activities and pursuits in this new stage of their lives called retirement, based on their own likes and comfort level. I learned the secret the hard way transitioning from retired probation officer to actress, author, public speaker, and blogger. Audience members at my lectures on senior reinvention requested a book on the subject. This is the result, and it contains the content of those talks and six years of posts from this blog. CLICK here TO PURCHASE FROM AMAZON.COM.
Adventures with Dad: A Father and Daughter’s Journey Through a Senior Acting Class (memoir): After retiring at age 60 from my 37-year career as a probation officer, I mistakenly enrolled in an acting class for seniors. A few weeks later, my mother died, and I invited my grieving, 85-year-old father to come to class with me. This is the true story of our magical journey attending that class together for three years, bonding more than ever. I wrote the comedy scenes we performed onstage twice a year in the acting class showcases, and all six scenes are included in the book. I eventually transitioned into the world of professional acting. As my fledgling, second career started going uphill, my dad’s health started going downhill. I would recount to him each of my new experiences while I sat beside his bed at the nursing home where he resided in his final years. CLICK here TO PURCHASE FROM AMAZON.COM.
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