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Cool Your Jets

Final Book CoverThis blog is written by Lee Gale Gruen to help Baby Boomers, seniors, retirees, and those soon to retire find joy, excitement, and satisfaction in life after retirement. Her public lecture on this subject is titled: “Reinventing Yourself in Your Retirement.” Her memoir, Adventures with Dad: A Father and Daughter’s Journey Through a Senior Acting Class, is available by clicking here Click here for her website:

Now, on to my blog:

jet with contrailsWe are all impatient, some more than others. We are concerned about how future events will unfold.  We want our agendas to be realized immediately. However, living in a world of billions, that’s usually impossible.  We must wait our turn in the queue. We must rein in our impatience. We must plan our activities in advance to allow plenty of time to reach the goal or outcome we seek.

Trying to be patient can create anxiety, sleep problems, distraction, and all types of other behaviors which interfere with our everyday lives. However, we have no choice; we must learn to grapple with delayed gratification.

How can you do so if you are a personality type with substantial difficulty in that arena? It’s hard, but it can and must be done for your well-being. Here are some ideas:

  1. You can participate in a soothing activity that redirects your mind and thoughts. I know someone who takes to her piano whenever she feels anxious.
  2. You can schedule activities that divert your attention such as watching a movie, playing cards, attending an interesting function, etc.
  3. You can engage in physical exercise such as sports or attendance at your local gym to help channel your nervous energy.
  4. You can discuss your feelings with a friend as a sounding board to get a better perspective on the particular situation.
  5. Or, you can make the decision to change your modus operandi.

Your modus operandi is simply your normal way of behaving.  Changing your M.O. is the hardest choice of all. It takes constant attention and self- assessment to be aware of how you are acting, to settle your mind, and to choose to move on to something else.

Unlike the aforementioned, short-term fixes, a significant change of behavior may take years to accomplish and possibly therapeutic intervention. Success at that endeavor depends heavily on the depth of your desire to discard old habits for new. If you are able to accomplish such a feat, however, it will be the most rewarding and helpful to you.


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