This blog is written by Lee Gale Gruen to help Baby Boomers, seniors, retirees, and those soon to retire find joy, excitement, and satisfaction in life after retirement. Her public lecture on this subject is titled: “Reinventing Yourself in Your Retirement.” Her memoir, Adventures with Dad: A Father and Daughter’s Journey Through a Senior Acting Class, is available by clicking here Amazon.com. Click here for her website: http://AdventuresWithDadTheBook.com
CHITCHAT: Check out my interview on November 20, 2018 (top few paragraphs) in an article in Moneyish.com, a Dow Jones Media Group Publication: https://www.marketwatch.com/story/why-nearly-3-in-4-women-say-70-is-the-new-50—-but-far-fewer-men-do-2018-11-20 (Correction: I was a probation officer in Los Angeles, not San Francisco.)
Now, on to my blog:
Life is cyclical. It’s like a wave with peaks and valleys. The peaks–the good times–are exciting and exhilarating. But they can never be sustained. Life intervenes to drop us into the valleys–the bad times. It happens to all of us.
No, that guy at work, the neighbor down the block, the classmate at school for whom things always seem to go right are not imbued with some fairy godmother granting their every wish. They just do a better job of covering up their valleys than others do. Don’t ever think that only your life sucks and everyone else’s is wonderful. It doesn’t work like that. We all ride the cycles of life.
So, how do we weather those valleys; how do we survive? One way is to keep looking toward that metaphorical horizon for signs of the next peak peeking over as you slog your way through. It’s hard and takes constant vigilance to maintain a positive attitude.
It is easy to become discouraged and impatient hoping for things to turn around. There is not an assured time line. We can’t know when the peaks will happen, when the valleys will happen, and how long the span between them. We have no choice but to wait it out. How we do the waiting is up to us.
We can become depressed, we can rail, we can act out. Or, we can try to use the lull positively as we wait for it to pass. Get to work on that story you always wanted to write. Learn that new skill you always wanted to master. Reach out and connect with those people and places you never had the time to do before. Take up jogging, walking, gardening, tennis, knitting, gourd carving, whatever. Even the down spells can have little seeds of positivity embedded in them.
Remember, without the valleys, you can’t appreciate the peaks.
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