This blog is written by Lee Gale Gruen to help Baby Boomers, seniors, and those soon to retire find joy, excitement, and satisfaction in life after retirement. Her public lectures on this subject are titled, “Reinventing Yourself in Your Retirement Years”. Her memoir, available at Amazon.com, is: Adventures with Dad: A Father and Daughter’s Journey Through a Senior Acting Class. Book Website: http://AdventuresWithDadTheBook.com
CHITCHAT: I’m playing Grandma (wearing yellow, straight skirt and jacket) doing the do-si-do with Grandpa in this music video titled “Bisquits” by country music singer Kacey Musgraves. Click this link to view it: http://uproxx.com/music/2015/06/kacey-musgraves-biscuits-video/
There is an article about me in the June 19, 2015 “Beverly Hills Courier” newspaper. Scroll down to page 16 at this link: http://bhcourier.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/061915Fissue1.pdf
Now, on to my blog:
“Nothing is certain but death and taxes.” We’ve all heard that quotation or a variation of it. Usually, the path to that certainty of death is aging. So, how do we deal with it?
Like most things in life, we have choices. We can rail against aging, try to defeat it, or accept it. No matter which method we chose, however, we can’t avoid it.
Today, with so many tricks of medicine and technology at our disposal, people try to pretend that they are not aging. There is makeup to allow us to hide blemishes, enhance dull features, or just sparkle; hair dye to avoid revealing that telltale gray; hair implants to reverse balding; plastic surgery to do away with sagging skin; contact lenses to make the correction of poor sight invisible; hearing aids of various kinds including implants–the most invisible; clothing to make us look like teenyboppers; and shoes with too-high heels pathetically worn by women with foot problems and fragile bones teetering to keep their balance. The list goes on and on. For years, I missed much of what was being said because I refused to consider even exploring hearing aids; the idea made me feel old.
Many turn themselves into caricatures: the fake looking face which is now so common it’s almost a norm; the old guy with the too-young girlfriend, another almost norm; or the baby boomer with the too tight pants and tee shirt. So, do we keep chasing after that elusive youth, do we just throw up our hands and let whatever happens happen, do we choose some middle path? Each person must make that decision for him/herself, of course.
Let’s consider one additional factor: happiness. Are we happy with ever escalating procedures, devices, and fashions? Some will insist they are. However, under that facade still lurks failing hips and knees, pain from arthritis, waning strength and vigor, and all the rest.
Is there a way to age gracefully and be okay with who you are? Some thoughts are: we can strive to be as healthy and fit as possible; we can dress nicely but age-appropriately; we can accept that we need glasses or hearing aids to enhance the quality of life–or a cane, or a walker, or whatever.
Let’s at least try to avoid health endangering procedures such as invasive elective surgery done only to chase that hyped youth. There was a case a few years ago of the mother of a famous entertainer being rejected for cosmetic surgery by various doctors due to an existing health condition until she finally found a willing one. He did the surgery she so hungered for, and she died.
Must we put our lives or health at risk only to pretend we’re something that we’re not? Let’s battle to be okay with who we are rather than battling against nature.
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